The Guardian describes the term, the problem, and more in "The age of
I'm struck again by the early insight of Virginia Woolf, here noting the
relationship between patriarchy and capitalism. Is this the reason that so
many Sheryl Sandbergs tell women to just "lean in" and become
multimillionaires ... so they can swap submission to patriarchy for
dominion in racially-steeped classism?  I wonder to what extent this lies
behind the worship of Trump by middle- and higher-income white women in
America's suburbs, rural states and evangelical churches.

"It took a female thinker, and a feminist, to pull “patriarchy” out of the
realm of theory and into the zone of experience. Virginia Woolf’s Three
Guineas (1938) set “patriarchy” to work on the reality of her own
circumstances. For her, it described the dynamics within families like hers
– in which the father held economic power and authority, boys were trained
for public life and girls were debarred from either a serious education or
the opportunity to earn a living. The battle lines were drawn “between the
victims of the patriarchal system and the patriarchs”. In other words, it
was “the daughters against the fathers”.

Woolf did not here write of “patriarchy” as a social structure that went
beyond the boundaries of the bourgeois household. Nor did she have time for
feminine essentialism: she predicted that the opportunity for women to
amass capital and property on equal terms as men would mean that women
could change “from being the victims of the patriarchal system … to being
the champions of the capitalist system”. She expanded: “Behind us lies the
patriarchal system: the private house, with its nullity, its immorality,
its hypocrisy, its servility. Before us lies the public world, the
professional system, with its possessiveness, its jealousy, its pugnacity,
its greed.” It is an ambiguous picture: she shows little admiration for the
capitalist world she describes. And yet in her formulation – an idea that
some later feminists would find themselves echoing – the “creative
destruction” of capitalism had the capacity to leave patriarchy behind.

Justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged
as those who are
― Benjamin Franklin

The day is coming when a single carrot, freshly observed, will set off a
revolution.  -- Paul Cezanne

Nihil de nobis, sine nobis:  Nothing about us, without us!